1. THE IDEA THAT MARRIAGE IS WORK
Don’t look at marriage as if it’s work or a struggle. That attitude will put you down. Who wants to get out of job and come back home to work all their life? Look at marriage as a journey with your best friend. Approach marriage with the right attitude Nd a good mindset.
2. UNATTENDED ISSUES
Don’t pile up issues, address them Nd solve them. Pending issues threaten the joy in your marriage.
3. RIGIDITY IN S*X
Try out new s*x Positions, let loose, flirt, be kinky, Nd explore with ur partner in marriage and experiment as you remain faithful to each other.
4. LACK OF LAUGHTER
Stop being too serious, joke, laugh, tease each other, watch comedies, have fun.
5. DOMESTIC TALKS
Don’t reduce your conversations to be just about chores, bills, responsibilities and parenthood. Talk about life, feelings, romance each other, smooth talk each other, heighten intimacy. Spice up with the marriage with beautiful things through discussions.
6. NO MORE DATING
Just because you are married doesn’t mean that you stop going out on dates. Dress up, go out, do dinners, go for salsa, go for concerts, picnics, vacations. Go out as a couple.
7. OVER SPIRITUALISING THINGS
Don’t turn everything to a spiritual talk just because you want to show you are Godly. God cares about every aspect of your life, not just your spirit. There is a time for everything
Don’t isolate yourselves as a couple, make friends, invite visitors home, have get togethers or a barbeque, see what other married couples are doing, socialize while still remaining faithful, bless lives together as a couple
Do not allow outsiders to come and interfere with what you two are building. Only you two carry the vision for your marriage, not your Pastor, your parents or friends.
10. LACK OF STIMULATION
Give each other new experiences. Dress up, look good, read up, grow mentality, make progress so that you are able to stimulate your spouse mentally, sexually and visually
Yes, you can be married and can still feel lonely. This happens when you don’t give each other time, when you don’t do things together, when you don’t make effort to understand each other. Don’t make your spouse feel single.
It is so boring to be married to a self centered person, don’t be such a person