Marriage, before it there is courtship or relationship. At this stage you need to be certain if you really want to build a family with your spouse. Some red flags are pardonable as the couple work on themselves to get better. However other red flags are ones you just should not ignore.\n\nNot that the spouse is a bad person, but its a sign that you two are not compatible. Don\u2019t marry someone, when you know you are not inwardly certain and being with the person doesn\u2019t make you happy.\n\nDon\u2019t marry someone if the person\n\n\n\tTakes you for granted\n\n\n\n\nSomeone who takes you for granted always puts everyone and everything else ahead of you. If your spouse is committed to you, no matter the busy schedule he or she will make time for you.\n\nThis person also places their needs first and expects that you also do same always. More like love reciprocated and unappreciated.\n\n\nYou are not heard by your spouse, you are not seen by your spouse, your spouse doesn\u2019t regard you, huge red flags not to marry them. This is because the relationship will always be one-sided and you will not be happy\n\n2. Always abuses you emotionally\n\n\n\n\nSaying negative things to your spouse is a very dangerous thing. It diminishes character, self-value and self-worth. a typical instance is telling your lady her mouth is too big for you or your gentleman there is nothing about him that is deserving of you.\n\nWhen you marry one who emotionally abuses you, you will never feel enough and will always see yourself as the worse among good things.\n\n\n\u201cAny behavior of this kind should be discussed with a mental health professional to determine the significance,\u201d Smith said. \u201cIf characteristics such as these or others make you question if they might be a problem, they must not be ignored. These are some of the big causes for partners seeking marriage counseling later on.\u201d\n\n3. Is Not Ready to Support your goals and vision\n\n\n\n\n\n\nMarriage is companionship, teamwork and every other English word synonymous to togetherness. When you feel your spouse is dragging you back in terms of your vision, dreams and aspiration; It is better to hold on to reach an agreement or find someone who will support you due to compatibility and growth.\n\nMarriage with divided ideas and plans eventually leads to a divided home.\n\n4. Is Manipulative and Controlling\n\n\n\n\nManipulative and controlling people always make sure reality is an imagination and the truth is always a lie. Your relationship is never healthy as they always get what they want with their wit and controlling nature. They are usually possessive and always right.\n\nMarrying such a person who is unwilling to change will live you in a bitter relationship as all the bad things they do to hurt and hunt you will have to seem good to you.\n\n5. Is Marrying you out of compassion or self-pity\n\n\n\n\nLove grows and love is built. However the thought of spending your whole life imprisoned is high when you marry someone you don\u2019t love. Happiness is sacrificed as these marriages usually lack companionship and constant communication.\n\nEach party can\u2019t wait to go out and hang out with others as that\u2019s where they find comfort.\n\n6. Is A Secretive Person\n\n\n\n\nTrue we are all entitled to our privacy, but marrying secretive person is very dangerous. Why cant the person open up to you? Is the person not comfortable enough to treat you as the companion you really are?\n\nSecrets lead to tons and tons of trust issues; Trust is a key factor on which marriage is built, if not it will not hold.\n\nIf your marriage is failing because of any of the above, try working it out and see a counselor. If you are yet to get into marriage, why not solve the heavy red flags first.