Are you mean about money? These 5 warning signs could definitely ruin your relationship.\nHe said, she said. He\u2019s wrong, I\u2019m right. Finger-pointing can quickly turn into finger poking when you involve money.\nLots of spouses fight about money. In fact, divorced couples say \u201cmoney\u201d ruined their relationships more than any other factor. But, you can identify destructive patterns before they make you crazy or mean. A good place to start is to look in the mirror and ask yourself, \u201cAm I mean when it comes to money?\u201d\n\n\nMany of us really don\u2019t want to know if we are \u201cMoney Mean\u201d or not. The truth hurts, so we applaud you for reading this article.\nNo one sets out to act mean, but over time and as frustration grows, many of us become \u201cMoney Mean.\u201d It destroys our relationships and our families, but spotting these destructive behaviors helps you reverse these nasty habits, lower the tension in your home, and get your relationships moving back in the right direction.\n\n\nDo any of these sound familiar?\n\n1. You yell at your spouse when they spend money. Usually, \u201cno questions asked\u201d is a good thing, but a \u201cMoney Mean\u201d spouse starts yelling about any purchase without hearing the reasoning behind the expense.\n\n\n\n2. You control the finances with an iron fist. Dictators get a bad rap in the history books and there is a really good reason why. A marriage is about give and take, sharing of ideas, and fair and equal treatment. Ruling every penny with an iron fist is \u201cMoney Mean.\u201d\n\n3. You put your financial agenda ahead of your spouse. Most wedding vows pledge to love one another for richer or poorer. Those vows remind the couple that their relationship is more important their financial situation.\n\nIf saving every cent, or spending whatever you want whenever you want, is the most important thing, you\u2019ve put your financial agenda ahead of your concern for your spouse.\n\n4. You spend when you say you won\u2019t. What do we tell our kids? \u201cDon\u2019t lie. The minute you lie, I can\u2019t trust anything else that comes out of your mouth.\u201d When you lie about your spending you\u2019re telling your spouse, \u201cI don\u2019t trust you with the truth.\u201d Why do you feel the need to lie?\n\n\n\n5. You have a secret spending stash or credit card. Lies about money in a relationship is the root of \u201cfinancial infidelity.\u201d Sound serious? It is. Just like the lies of an affair can destroy a marriage, so do lies about money. And just like an affair, the sooner you come clean, the better.\n\n\n\nRebuild the trust and honesty in your relationship. Your relationship, and possibly your finances, could become stronger than ever. Enlist a neutral party to help out if you don\u2019t know how to get started on your own.