5 Signs Your Attitude Towards Money Is Ruining Your Relationship

Are you mean about money? These 5 warning signs could definitely ruin your relationship.
He said, she said. He’s wrong, I’m right. Finger-pointing can quickly turn into finger poking when you involve money.
Lots of spouses fight about money. In fact, divorced couples say “money” ruined their relationships more than any other factor. But, you can identify destructive patterns before they make you crazy or mean. A good place to start is to look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Am I mean when it comes to money?”

Many of us really don’t want to know if we are “Money Mean” or not. The truth hurts, so we applaud you for reading this article.
No one sets out to act mean, but over time and as frustration grows, many of us become “Money Mean.” It destroys our relationships and our families, but spotting these destructive behaviors helps you reverse these nasty habits, lower the tension in your home, and get your relationships moving back in the right direction.
Do any of these sound familiar?
1. You yell at your spouse when they spend money. Usually, “no questions asked” is a good thing, but a “Money Mean” spouse starts yelling about any purchase without hearing the reasoning behind the expense.

2. You control the finances with an iron fist. Dictators get a bad rap in the history books and there is a really good reason why. A marriage is about give and take, sharing of ideas, and fair and equal treatment. Ruling every penny with an iron fist is “Money Mean.”
3. You put your financial agenda ahead of your spouse. Most wedding vows pledge to love one another for richer or poorer. Those vows remind the couple that their relationship is more important their financial situation.
If saving every cent, or spending whatever you want whenever you want, is the most important thing, you’ve put your financial agenda ahead of your concern for your spouse.
4. You spend when you say you won’t. What do we tell our kids? “Don’t lie. The minute you lie, I can’t trust anything else that comes out of your mouth.” When you lie about your spending you’re telling your spouse, “I don’t trust you with the truth.” Why do you feel the need to lie?

5. You have a secret spending stash or credit card. Lies about money in a relationship is the root of “financial infidelity.” Sound serious? It is. Just like the lies of an affair can destroy a marriage, so do lies about money. And just like an affair, the sooner you come clean, the better.

Rebuild the trust and honesty in your relationship. Your relationship, and possibly your finances, could become stronger than ever. Enlist a neutral party to help out if you don’t know how to get started on your own.

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